$5 for the bus, $10 for a movie ticket, $20 for the dinner, $40 for that adorable teddy bear that she can’t take her eyes off…
Going out with someone sure is expensive, there is no question about that (unless you’re telling me that you don’t fancy romantic dinner and cute movie dates, all you want to do is spend time looking into each other’s loving eyes – In which case, please excuse me while I go around the corner and puke my guts out). But if you think this is it, you’re wrong.
Loving someone isn’t simple, you are giving that special someone a piece of your heart. From the initial chase to sealing the deal, the entire process is filled with emotions: Witty remarks, shameless flirting, and the playful, sometimes seductive wink all serve to tie two hearts together.
Someone people get lucky: One look into each other’s eyes and Boom! True love. The rest of us mortals aren’t as lucky, getting to know someone even as a friend can be a difficult task for some people, especially if they are naturally shy and introverted. But even if you are a socialite, it could still be a challenge to open yourself up to someone else in a private capacity, or it could be the other way round. It takes an immense amount of trust for someone to let you into their mind, for them to tell you personal things that you wouldn’t have found out otherwise (unless you manage to dig up some information from their close friends) is probably the greatest gift a person can give you, they are making themselves vulnerable to you by opening up.
Try to make sure that you know what you want, and that you are willing to spend time (and probably money) with them before you start to pursue someone. A person isn’t a toy, they have feelings just like you do, and once you have their attention, it is unfair to just disappear off the face of the Earth without giving them a good reason. Yes, I understand that allowing someone to touch your heart and influence your emotions is scary, but you can’t always expect the other person to go first, someone has take the first step. If you’re brave enough, go ahead and take the initiative and get the ball rolling. Assuming that you two are compatible, you are likely to succeed if you are willing to give your best. Remember this: Time and commitment always come first, money is just an obstacle that you have to overcome.
If you are with someone, congratulations, cherish your relationship with that person, when you’re down, think about all the great things you’ve done and gone through together. If you’re single… Well, there’s hope for you yet. Never give up, some things are worth waiting/fighting for. Not convinced? Perhaps this video will do the trick.
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Felix Yeung (or more commonly known as Anton Donovan) is a third year student studying Bachelor of Creative Industries, majoring in Creative and Professional Writing at Queensland University of Technology (QUT). His favorite past times includes consuming copious amount of Fruit Tingle at the university guild bar and chasing after cats on campus.
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